I see some chortling at the very concept of microaggressions, from people who (unless I miss my guess) poop their Pampers at the thought of people preferring one pronoun over another.

In my head, that first season of "Monk" has Stottlemeyer unable to cope with his own life, and he just doesn't have it in him to handle Monk too. Rather than it his own problems, he blames Monk.

He's not being a great friend, but that happens sometimes.

People have more trouble contextualizing "Profit and Lace" and try to make it a statement about trans, and hate it on those grounds. But it was a simple (even clumsy) exploration of, how would the sexist Quark like to be on the other side of sexism. Even then it was weak by DS9 standards, but it doesn't deserve to be mentioned in the same breath as "Code of Honor". If nothing else, Quark did learn to be less sexist.